Dear Kiambang Suri,

Now that we are more civil, allow me to explain.

No matter how valid or intelligent you think your question may be, that you were hiding behind ‘ONDE 2’, was it my fault that I don’t make it my habit or obligate myself to answer questions from people that I don’t even know?

I was only too aware that there were one ‘ONDE’ too many in my cbox. When one tried to be another but all for a common corrupting influence to perpetrate this site.., that made you one and all the same. We have established who these ‘ONDEs’ are. One is a friend and some are relatives. In all honesty, we don’t care. What you don’t know about us does not make me a liar.

I am saddened by the news that your mum has been sick. I find it strange though that you conveniently blame it on Ziehan for what she wrote in her blog. Far from having access into the Internet, I don’t think so that she could understand the contents of what was written or interpret that silent voice that Ziehan had long kept within her. Unless of course there is a courier service among the ‘ONDEs’. This budaya sampai-menyampai should be made your real cause for concern. If this is part of the so-called culture that you are so proud of, what you are bounded by duty does not necessarily equate to honor. Between you and I, your mum happened to be an innocent bystander caught in the line of fire. I will pray for her good health and may Allah blessed her with the fortitude to protect her against manipulation and the domineering demeanors of others.

As my consolatory gesture to you, I hope that it would appease you to know that my entry was written never with the intention to malign you. It may have been propelled by impulse but it was written with a far reaching specific to also address all the ‘ONDEs’ and all the ‘wannabes’ too. By my own terms, I called it ‘Rules Of Engagement’. Ziehan and I are not proud of what we did, but I think we did enough to refrain ourselves from using vulgarities. Get it??

If Ziehan and I were the cause of your parents’ sadness, then we do not want to exonerate ourselves against any blame. But I also have strong reasons to believe that your parents are equally sad over a lot of other things. Until you learn to respect the right of our privacy in the same manner that we have always respected yours, please do no make it your business to interfere with ours on the pretext of duty.

God is my witness; I humbled myself to your parents for keredhaan before. Whatever that transpired that day, left me pursuing for your sister’s hand in marriage. I have done all the right things for a good reason...just don’t make it so wrong for your own reason. Like I said before – what you don’t know much about does not necessarily make me a liar. Get it??

I do not intend to make this issue a bigger circus for the entertainment and amusement of those opportunistic few who seek pleasure from our altercations. I have a journey to complete and I will not yield to conduct unbecoming. May you not put yourself on a collision course with me; and I will hold my truce with a hope that all’s well ends well.

Specially for your parents, I conclude with special prayers…

“Dengan nama Allah yang maha pemurah lagi maha penyayang. Segala puji bagi Allah yang menguasai seluruh alam, yaitu puji-pujian yang menyamai segala nikmat-nya dan sebanding dengan segala tambahan-nya. Wahai Tuhan kami, bagi mu segala kepujian sebagaimana yang selayaknya dengan kebesaran zat-Mu dan dengan kebesaran kekuasaan-Mu. Ya Allah, kurniakanlah kesejateraan dan keselamatan kepada ibu dan bapa kami.

Aku bermohon kepada engkau akan kedudukan dan kesihatan mereka yang baik yang engkau ridhai; dan sesungguhnya tempatkanlah mereka dalam rombongan yang berbahagia serta mencukupi; dan kurniakan kedamaian dan kemuliaan bagi mereka dengan keredhaan engkau yang memberi manfaat.” Amin..


Assalammualaikum.